What makes a man marriage material?
Funny isnt it, we the fairer sex unless your appetite is otherwise sexually whetted, or if you've taken a holy vow and live as a nun, or decided to stay a Ms all your life, will more than likely end up with another one of our earthly co - hibitors namley our more yang energy, the Alpha Male, and with that in mind, how many of us actually take the time to ponder, what kind of man it is we want to pair up with.
Now many of you may be saying, Yes, of course ive thought about it, ive got lists and pages of attributes and boxes, the said male must tick to even be considered good material in my book!
and hopefully there will be others like me, who although yeah I have my preferances, clean undies, and more than 1 friend, have never took the time to actually be seriously considering, (now im growing up), what warrents ideals for a lifetime in my mind?
Now im not getting married, I havnt recieved a proposal, but im not expecting to be left on the probverbial shelf,and although i know we shouldnt expect too much, so as not to be dissapointed, I still think it an excellent idea to put it out there, even if just to clarify it for myself, what id like, expect and ideally, love to be lumbered with.
Okay so first of all im going to suppose a scenario of what it might be like to be married, and the duties i may have to undertake, and i will take it from there, you see I know i want someone who is my equal, a forward thinking man so as not to be left with someone who thinks that me and the kitchen have a closer relationship than i with my beloved, ( the opposite to this would be, someone who still thinks a womans place is by the sink, ideally like to be with someone where we share the good times and the bad, eg share the cleaning, and share the channel remote.
cooking - a man who likes to cook, and can, and someone, who likes eating out, and doesnt mean out of a carton.
As for cleaning - someone who is willing to pick up a mop and when i mention its bagless doesnt think im missing something to go with my shoes.
Sex - a man who wants it when i do, but doesnt moan if ure not feeling it on occasion.
Thoughts on kids, someone who also wants a little us or two, and also doesnt liken the sound of a baby crying to that of nails being scrapped down a blackboard! (by an ex,ive heard it said)
Money, someone who likes to share, not whats mine is theirs and whats theirs is theirs! Also would be handy to have someone who is good with money, doesnt gamble often, where money doesnt burn a hole in their pockets.
Okay so thats the house, kids and material subjects covered, now for personal attributes, someone kind, loving, funny, playful, sexy, someone i can admire for his sense of fairness, his ability to see thebigger picture, someone friendly and likeable, someone other centered, whos clever, and quick, a man with good morals, and someone whos maybe experienced life, so has some scope on the big bad world, someone i can learn from, someone i can grow with, a man who is trustworthy and trusting, awareness of life, an ability to question life, someone strong of mind and of will.
thats just for starters, i guess some could say its a tall order, but i believe that so long as you know, or have at least a rough guide of what your looking for and even better what your not looking for, we have here a fighting chance of getting it... or the option is never to give this another thought and then wonder why we end up with someone who doesnt float our boat, perhaps someone our friends or family might go for, someone who we think fits the bill becasue of what we see on the tv, or what we have read in a magazine, its all about personal preference, i mean i dont want to be with someone who spends longer looking in the mirror than i do, but another woman might like the chance to swap GHD techniques with their beau, bottom line is, its a pretty good idea to have at least given the time it takes to read this to put some thought into it, and at least that way you can only blame yourself if you get something from your worst nightmare.
Funny isnt it, we the fairer sex unless your appetite is otherwise sexually whetted, or if you've taken a holy vow and live as a nun, or decided to stay a Ms all your life, will more than likely end up with another one of our earthly co - hibitors namley our more yang energy, the Alpha Male, and with that in mind, how many of us actually take the time to ponder, what kind of man it is we want to pair up with.
Now many of you may be saying, Yes, of course ive thought about it, ive got lists and pages of attributes and boxes, the said male must tick to even be considered good material in my book!
and hopefully there will be others like me, who although yeah I have my preferances, clean undies, and more than 1 friend, have never took the time to actually be seriously considering, (now im growing up), what warrents ideals for a lifetime in my mind?
Now im not getting married, I havnt recieved a proposal, but im not expecting to be left on the probverbial shelf,and although i know we shouldnt expect too much, so as not to be dissapointed, I still think it an excellent idea to put it out there, even if just to clarify it for myself, what id like, expect and ideally, love to be lumbered with.
Okay so first of all im going to suppose a scenario of what it might be like to be married, and the duties i may have to undertake, and i will take it from there, you see I know i want someone who is my equal, a forward thinking man so as not to be left with someone who thinks that me and the kitchen have a closer relationship than i with my beloved, ( the opposite to this would be, someone who still thinks a womans place is by the sink, ideally like to be with someone where we share the good times and the bad, eg share the cleaning, and share the channel remote.
cooking - a man who likes to cook, and can, and someone, who likes eating out, and doesnt mean out of a carton.
As for cleaning - someone who is willing to pick up a mop and when i mention its bagless doesnt think im missing something to go with my shoes.
Sex - a man who wants it when i do, but doesnt moan if ure not feeling it on occasion.
Thoughts on kids, someone who also wants a little us or two, and also doesnt liken the sound of a baby crying to that of nails being scrapped down a blackboard! (by an ex,ive heard it said)
Money, someone who likes to share, not whats mine is theirs and whats theirs is theirs! Also would be handy to have someone who is good with money, doesnt gamble often, where money doesnt burn a hole in their pockets.
Okay so thats the house, kids and material subjects covered, now for personal attributes, someone kind, loving, funny, playful, sexy, someone i can admire for his sense of fairness, his ability to see thebigger picture, someone friendly and likeable, someone other centered, whos clever, and quick, a man with good morals, and someone whos maybe experienced life, so has some scope on the big bad world, someone i can learn from, someone i can grow with, a man who is trustworthy and trusting, awareness of life, an ability to question life, someone strong of mind and of will.
thats just for starters, i guess some could say its a tall order, but i believe that so long as you know, or have at least a rough guide of what your looking for and even better what your not looking for, we have here a fighting chance of getting it... or the option is never to give this another thought and then wonder why we end up with someone who doesnt float our boat, perhaps someone our friends or family might go for, someone who we think fits the bill becasue of what we see on the tv, or what we have read in a magazine, its all about personal preference, i mean i dont want to be with someone who spends longer looking in the mirror than i do, but another woman might like the chance to swap GHD techniques with their beau, bottom line is, its a pretty good idea to have at least given the time it takes to read this to put some thought into it, and at least that way you can only blame yourself if you get something from your worst nightmare.
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